Happy 100th day of life to my baby girl, Iya!
100 days ago we were in our post partum suite at the hospital bonding and just getting to know each other. I was pretty low-key about my pregnancy while I was pregnant because I just wanted to focus on being healthy and happy. Ever since giving birth I’ve been looking forward to sharing my story with you guys! 100 days of sleep deprivation is the reason for my delay lol!
I filmed a sit down video but it’s quite rambly (as usual) and almost an hour long, yikes! Here you’ll find the more organized, abridged, written version ha.
My labor & delivery story isn’t what I was expecting at all. I kept picturing a huge gush of water and a shriek of “the baby’s coming!!” following by frantic racing to the hospital like I always saw on TV but my experience was completely anti-climatic. Something clicked in my head when I hit 36 weeks – I started to feel anxious, nervous, unprepared, scared… all of the above. I was four weeks out from my due date (July 7th) and nothing was ready, our birthing class was scheduled to begin the following week, my maternity shoot the day after that, i had to wash all of baby’s things most of which I still had to buy, I needed to get waxed, get my nails done… and to top it all off I hadn’t had a pre-natal appointment in weeks! I had no idea what was going on with me or the baby, I didn’t know if she was in position, if I was dilated, nothing! I was just counting down the days to my appointment which was at 37 weeks…
Hi loves! I’m slowly approaching the light at the end of the tunnel that is the end of the unpredictable newborn stage lol! I wanted to get this New Mommy Roundup on the blog earlier but was too crazed; I have a better handle on what is working for us and what isn’t now that I’m almost 3 months in anyways!
First, if you have a newborn or will soon let me tell you that your friends are telling you the truth that the insanely difficult beginnings will be over before you know it. Is there a switch at the 6 week mark like everyone told me? NO, but Iya was also 3+ weeks early so I’m not sure if I should be going by adjusted age or not – but I digress, either way it will fly by. To be vulnerably honest, it was around the 5-6 week mark that the sleep deprivation caught up to both my husband and myself. We were bickering about everything & we were simply exhausted. Waseem went back to work at 7 weeks and I felt like I hit rock bottom, I didn’t know what to do with her! It was my first time alone with any baby, let alone my own; I felt clueless, helpless, she screamed in my face all day, I felt like a failure and definitely had a breakdown by day two. A friend recommended the book On Becoming Babywise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep — this is my first Mommy Must-Have recommendation!! Drop everything and buy it – it’s great on Audible too. I learned about the importance of sleep-eat-wake cycles, I picked up on her sleep cues, and it made a huge difference for us overnight. Don’t let anyone tell you your baby is too young for a schedule!! Iya might still be tiny but having structure has done us all a ton of good and she’s a much happier, rested baby. In turn we are must happier, rested parents ;)
On that note… Let’s start with sleepy time products!
Celebrating every milestone to the fullest is becoming more of a norm than a novelty these days. Me, being the perpetually extra person that I am, have absolutely no complaints about this new age of gender reveals, babymoons, and push presents! Waseem and I have traveled quite a bit since getting married four years ago but a dream babymoon was something I just had to have IRL. The era of just us was coming to an end and we needed one last hurrah before two became three.
Haha yes, I plagiarized myself & my Babymoon Essentials post (shh!) but I put my sentiments into words a little too perfectly there and I blame my new-mommy brain mush for being unwilling to write up a new intro.
Bora Bora has been on my bucketlist for years and I had my heart absolutely set on it being our babymoon destination – I refused to even think of a back-up. When I know what I want, I just have to have it! I wanted a relaxing, exotic, & obviously Zika-free vacation and I wanted to stay in an over-water bungalow. This pretty much narrowed it down to French Polynesia…
For the majority of my pregnancy I was able to wear my regular comfy clothes. It wasn’t until near the end that I thought whoa! I need to go shopping! Nothing fit anymore, I was forever uncomfortable, and I just wasn’t feeling cute at all! Maintaining your everyday style and aesthetic while pregnant isn’t always the easiest task and it can feel downright discouraging at times. I caught wind of Lauren Conrad’s LC Lauren Conrad Maternity Collection earlier this month at Kohl’s and was super happy to see her stylish designs that didn’t scream I’m pregnant and huge! I placed my order on Kohls.com along with some a:glow maternity basics and was excited to have a proper maternity wardrobe going for the homestretch of my pregnancy.
My baby, however, had other plans and decided to arrive before my Kohl’s package even did!! Luckily my order did not go in vain. One thing a lot of women don’t talk about is what your body looks like after delivery. You’d think that weight gain aside, your insides would just pop back into place but that really isn’t the case. Celebrities and magazines can have us thinking we’re doing something wrong but let’s think about it. It took 9 months for our bodies to get to where they are, it only makes sense that it takes a little time to snap back too. With the right wardrobe and positive mindset, we can look and feel great during our journey back. :)
My tip? Hold on to those maternity clothes! The M-word might make you feel some type of way since you’re not pregnant anymore, but I say to heck with labels! Why be miserable and squeeze yourself into your old jeans before you’re ready for no reason at all (sleep deprived on top of it!) when you could wear comfortable pieces that are also figure flattering.
You look good when you feel good!
Other than having my baby girl in my arms finally, another incredible perk of her early arrival was that my husband unexpectedly got to celebrate his first Father’s Day this year! I wore my new LC Lauren Conrad Chambray Off-the-Shoulder Dress to celebrate the hubs’ new daddy status and I honestly felt… so pretty! I didn’t think I could feel that way within my first week postpartum but all it took was the right dress!
In this world of social media and Pinterest, celebrating every milestone to the fullest is becoming more of a norm than a novelty. Me, being the perpetually extra person that I am, have absolutely no complaints about this new age of gender reveals, babymoons, and push presents! Waseem and I have traveled quite a bit since getting married four years ago but a dream babymoon was something I just had to have IRL. Waseem really is my best friend. One night it clicked in both of our heads that soon.. we won’t be able to spontaneously jump in the car at 1am for snacks or have random 90s dance parties for two in our living room (shhh.. the baby’s sleeping!). As much as we’ve wanted and prayed for this baby.. the era of just us is coming to an end. We just needed one last hurrah before two becomes three.